I know that I’m wading into a controversial subject here, but I’ve been silent on this topic for a long time and I figure it’s time for me to start talking. I’m sure you have heard it mentioned in the news and read it in the paper that there are millions of stalkers on the internet preying on kids. The internet is the just like the real world. There are criminals, sex offenders, murderers, and every other type of criminal in the world and they have always been there. On the other hand there are also wonderful experiences, people to meet, and things to learn as well. So do we lock our kids in their bedrooms and not allow them outside? Of course not. We train them from wee little on up about avoiding strangers, going where mom and dad tell them to go, and generally protect them. We don’t keep them from libraries or books.
So should we close our kids off from this amazing resource? No way, never. Do we take precautions and give them guidelines for behavior? Absolutely.
Now the one thing I want you to understand is that if you are a lazy parent, then everything I’m about to say is a waste. You need to be an active parent to allow your child to participate in one of the most amazing collections of information that has ever been created.
Let me give you some guidelines:
1. Filter the content your child sees. I have a posting on this site about OpenDNS. Please set it up and you will get a good first line of defense going.
2. Anti-Virus. Kids are curious and will click on email attachments and ads they shouldn’t. They will download viruses and malware to your computer so you need to protect it. You can one of the free systems such as AVG or look at one of the better paid versions such as NOD32.
3. Don’t use the checkbook computer. Get the kids their own system that will allow you to tighen up the security and if it does get infected, your personal financial records will not be at stake. Look at using some lockdown software such as Deep Freeze or Microsoft’s free product, Steady State.
4. Now the most important recommedation of all. Where is the computer they are using? Please put the computer for the children’s use in your family room, kitchen, living room; some public space in your house where an adult is present or often passing thru. NEVER, EVER put a computer in a child’s room on the internet. Not only are you opening yourself up for trouble, you are also hurting your child. There was a study done by some CMU researchers several years ago that found that not having the computer in a public space can lead to depression and becoming a social introvert. No kidding!
5. MySpace and Facebook. You need to teach your children that anything you put on the internet is there forever. They may put something on their MySpace page when they are a teenager that may affect a college admission or a job opportunity in the future. If they cannot understand this, then ban the sites. The only downside of banning these sites is that they are the telephones of this generation. When I was a teenager, you would spend hours talking on the telephone to your friends, this generation uses MySpace and Facebook for this. Make some educated choices.
I cannot stress the location of the computer enough. Being a geek, my son had access to the internet at an early age, but we put the computer in a position where we could see the display from the kitchen, family room, etc. This not only keeps them out of trouble, it also allows for interaction; your child may find something cool that he wants to show mom and dad. Participatory parenting.
Your thoughts?
Later,
matt